Everyday Romance: Stupid Decisions
In romance novels, heroines sometimes make stupid decisions. Choosing the "safe" guy over the one she really wants. Staying when she should go – or going when she should stay. Holding a grudge for too long, or not letting a guy defend himself against an accusation before she goes off the deep end. Allowing stereotypes to ruin (or nearly ruin) a potentially good thing.
We've all made these types of decisions before – it's an inevitable part of being human to lead with the head when we should listen to our heart, or more often, vice versa. Unfortunately in real life, happy endings aren't guaranteed as they are in romance novels.
One of the stupidest decisions I ever made in college was to wait around for a guy I thought I had a real connection with (we did everything together – best friends), instead of realizing it was never going to happen between us (a lot did happen there at the end, and I'll save those juicy details for another time). It's not really the time I regret, but the emotional angst I spent on that non-relationship. I still know the guy, and thank goodness nothing ever came of that. Nice guy, just not the life I would have been happy with.
Most of my other stupid decisions regarding men/relationships revolve around trying to force a relationship where it just wasn't happening. I think women are guilty of that more often than men, but in my experience, it never, ever works.
Care to share? What's one stupid decision you've made when it comes to men/relationships?
Categories: Everyday Romance
Tags: romance relationships love
I believed my boyfriend at the time when he told me that a mutual friend was going through family trouble and just needed someone to listen to her. He regularly went to 'listen' until two or three in the morning. He later broke up with me, and is now dating her. Needless to say, I am a little less blind in my trust these days!
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Well that sucks...sorry to hear that. I bet you're quite a bit more skeptical these days. Sad, but understandable. *sigh*
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Oh I know all about waiting around for a guy. I was in an off/on (mostly off) relationship with who we'll call my first love, because I truly believe to this day I did love him.
He was arrogant, sexy and strong. All things that attract me. But he was also mean, selfish and unsupportive. I am not in touch with him anymore, but he was a good friend first. Too bad, wasted that friendship.
I picked the right one ;o)
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That's the important part, right? That in the end, we make the right decision.
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It is ;o)
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I agreed to marry a guy when I was 17, which was too young. Naturally, I realized that later and consequently broke his heart.
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It's so easy in our teens to let our emotions run amuck. Too many people make decisions like that, but you can hardly blame them, since we all are in danger of doing the very same thing.
And of course it's not always the wrong decision - my grandma married at 16, and is still with my Grandpa today, for better now (though worse earlier)...
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I have made MANY stupid mistakes and decisions where men were concerned. I got married the first time at 19 and got married the 2nd time at 23 less than a year after my first divorce. The second marriage lasted less than 6 weeks.
Those are just the stellar moments in my career of stupid decisions. I have loved and loved deeply only to be cheated on by someone I trusted and cared about. Then I have turned around and done the same thing again. I am a trusting soul.
I finally decided in 1982 that celibacy was a good thing and that I would remain celibate until I found a good man I could really trust. In 1996 I fell in love with a woman. That was when I quit being celibate. 14 years of celibacy because there was not one trustworthy man or woman that came into my life until my current partner came along. We have been together for 14 years. I think I finally quit making bad decisions.
Ciao,
Ardee-ann
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